Could This Be The New Normal?

News Flash: Did you hear that a department store in Sweden introduced “normal size mannequins” instead of size 00? How exciting is that? Could this be the new normal? I was so excited when I heard this on the news. The latest rage in Sweden are these “real women” mannequins sizes 12 and 16. I couldn’t believe how fabulous they looked when I saw them. As excited as I was at the news, I heard some negative comments which is always the case when something new comes along. The comments included that they are “condoning obesity” which is certainly not the case. By the way, did you know that the average woman is a size 14? I don’t know about you but I’m tired of that skinny, scrawny, anorexic look. In my opinion those women look absolutely miserable. In my opinion they never look happy, do you agree? If you haven’t noticed, take a look and let me know what you think. I am not telling women to let themselves go and eat whatever they want but we have to learn to love ourselves and love the bodies that God blessed us with. With that being said, LOL, I discovered a Lower Belly Shaper at Rush Industries which is giving me just that little extra support I need after giving birth to four children. After all, no matter how many miles I run, or how many crunches I do, mother nature has taken a bit of a toll on my body. I bought a very cute Panty Girdle that gives me just that little bit of extra support I need under my pants or skirts. Besides being comfortable, it is sexy and very affordable. I also bought the Powernet Control Panty for days when I feel as if I need a bit more control in my butt as well as my thighs. Now that the mannequins are larger sizes, maybe I can apply for a job as a model… Hmmm, now that’s a thought…

Are You Still Subjecting Yourself To Painful Bikini Waxes?

I don’t understand why I haven’t learned my lesson yet!!! I have been using the Epilady Legend for over 6 months and for some silly reason I decided to go back to the salon and subject myself to a bikini wax yet again… There must be some inexplicable reason why I subject myself to pain… I think I need some serious psyotherapy for this issue, don’t you agree? Why would anyone voluntarily agree to lay down on a table, allow a stranger to pour hot wax on their private parts and then allow them to tear it off??? Yikes, just typing the words is sending me into a painful tizzy LOL.

I’m going on vacation with my husband and children and popped into a salon in the neighborhood, stripped down naked and subjected myself to the most excruciatingly painful bikini wax I have ever had. Don’t bother feeling sorry for me because I should have known better. I sound like my mother who always seems to remember to say: “I told you so!” It’s as if she takes pleasure in letting me know I made a mistake, especially if I have done it over and over again. That’s a hot topic for another day. I can entertain you with mother ~ daughter stories forever but today it is about my bikini. I’m definitely switching back to my Epilady which removes even the shortest and finest hair by the root and leaves my skin smooth for up to 4-6 weeks. I probably shouldn’t be sharing such personal information with you but my private parts have been as smooth as a baby’s bum since I started using my Epilady. I must have been having a senior moment when I walked into the salon. I can assure you that will never happen again. You had to see the looks on the other customers faces when I walked out of the room. The shrieks they heard coming out of the waxing room will surely be the talk of the town for a long time to come. LOL…

Get Rid Of Unwanted Tenants!

Ok Ladies… I’m a bit nutty today so please forgive me. Believe it or not, I have a new tenant and I am not a happy camper. Besides being new, she moved right in without any rent or security and I can’t seem to get rid of her. I am so frustrated and was wondering if you have any suggestions for me. Let me start at the beginning and give you the facts so you can give me an educated opinion. Twenty-eight years ago, I was a beautiful, young and slender woman. Then it happened…I found myself pregnant and lo and behold, the changes started. Okay, I did lose all of the weight after the first baby but less than a year later I found myself pregnant again and the belly popped before it even had time to get back into its flat little shell. After that I had a short reprieve and returned back to my hot little body and BANG: pregnant again! I was now 5 years older and taking the weight off was getting harder and harder but I did it and was very happy in my skin. My children were getting older and easier to handle and I thought I was finished with babies and BANG: pregnant again! Once again, I lost the weight but my belly was a bit loose from all of the pregnancies and weight gain. Back to my unwanted tenant…she has taken up residence in my belly and simply refuses to leave. I am just beside myself and am looking every which way to evict her but nothing seems to work. In the mean time, I found Lower Belly Shape Wear and it seems to be making her quite uncomfortable. I have to admit it is very comfortable and I don’t even notice my belly anymore. In fact, I seem to have forgotten about my tenant well. I may even decide to let her stay rent free…LOL. I will let you know in a few weeks but until then check out the Shape Wear at Rush Industries if you need something sexy and comfortable with support for those extra pounds or just to give you more control under your clothing. My favorite piece is the Seamless High Waist Thong Shaper. It is sooo sexy!!!

What Is Integrative Nutrition? Find Out Today From My Friend Pam…

Have you heard the term Integrative Nutrition? Do you think it is the newest fad? As usual, I did some research on the topic to enlighten my readers.

I discovered that the practice of integrative nutrition takes a holistic approach to wellness recognizing that the foundation for optimal health and healing begins with a health promoting diet. We all know our bodies are biochemical environments and everything we put into our bodies in terms of the foods we eat, alcohol we drink, medications and so on make a difference. Our choices also determine, to a great extent, if we are moving towards wellness or away from it. It may also determine whether we age well or poorly and what, if any chronic diseases we will face. Integrative nutritionists address heart disease, cancer treatment/survival support, vegetarian eating, healthy aging, anti-inflammatory diet, food sensitivities, diabetes, high blood pressure, metabolic syndrome, stress reduction and weight management.

My very dear friend Pam is an Integrative Nutritionist. I treated myself to a consultation which began with an assessment of my current diet and how it was impacting my health. We discussed all that brought me to where I am today including my family and health histories and we discussed how to best minimize any current risks. Pam told me that therapeutic nutrition interventions can often prevent, reverse or delay the onset of disease.

Have you ever spent any time talking with someone about your health and received the personal attention you deserve? Why not do something nice for yourself today and give Pam a call. She is kind, compassionate, intelligent, caring, understanding and extremely professional. She will coach you to create a happy, healthy and less stressful life in a way that is flexible, fun and free of denial and discipline. Pam will also will also help you to make gradual, lifelong changes that enable you to reach your current and future health goals.

No one diet works for everyone. Pam will guide you to find the food and lifestyle choices that will best support you. Contact Pam at PBilfeld@aol.com, visit her website at ahealthylifenow.com. By the way, don’t forget to mention that I referred you!

Could This Be The Right Time?


H ‘H’ow unhappy are you with your body?
I ‘I’s your High Waist Body Shaper comfortable?
G Did you tell your ‘g’irlfriends about your new shape wear from Rush Industries?
H Are you ‘h’appy with your body?

W ‘W’hat are you doing to change things?
A ‘A’re you waiting for someone else to make you happy?
I ‘I’s it time to look within for your happiness?
S If ‘s’o, start now.
T As Martin Luther King said: “The ‘T’ime Is Always Right To Do What Is Right”

B Be ‘b’rave and take the first step.
O ‘O’penness and honesty!
D Recognize your ‘d’ivineness.
Y ‘Y’ou are worth it!

S ‘S’hare your story and help others.
H Ask your ‘H’igher Power to guide you.
A ‘A’cceptance is the answer.
P Improve your conscious contact with God through ‘P’rayer and meditation.
E Your ‘e’fforts will be rewarded.
R ‘R’esentments are a recipe for misery. Let it go….

I struggle with self acceptance 24/7. I truly mean 24/7. Even if I wake up in the middle of the night, I think about what I ate the day before and feel my stomach as if my self worth depends on how much fat I have. If you can relate to me, please, please try and do something to stop the vicious self-loathing cycle and learn how to love yourself. I don’t know about you but I want to stop my obsessive thinking and ‘live’ the carefree life, I was born to live. Higher Power, please help me, guide me, give me a sign that you are here and want me to recover from this malady of self-torture. I have reached the point of desperation and am on my knees waiting for my sign.

Wow… Higher Power, thank you for sending me the message through Dr. King “The Time Is Always Right To Do What Is Right”. My time is now, to do what is right and I am finally on the road to recovery…

Knocks Your Socks Off With Non-Skid Water Walkers

I am blessed to still have my parents… My Mom is turning 80 in a couple of months and my Dad is 85. Unfortunately my Dad has dementia but fortunately he still knows who I am and his face lights up whenever he sees me. We have a very special relationship, I am the only girl and the love he feels for me shines through whenever he sees me. I feel the same way about him and melt like a little girl whenever I see him. He gives me a big kiss and just wraps me in his arms. I can’t explain the feeling but I have never experienced love like this from anyone else in my life. By the way, I think my Mom is a bit jealous but she would never admit it lol.

Anyway, there I go again getting off topic. In addition to working full-time plus and taking care of my own family, my life revolves around taking my parents to doctor appointments at least once a week some weeks as much as four to five times. In fact, I often feel as if I am an only child because my brothers never seem to be available to help out. I’m sure you sense the resentment I am feeling… such a challenge for me. The few times I can’t go and one of my brothers says he can do it, my mother yells at them and says NO. It is so frustrating for me because if she goes by herself she never comes home with the correct information and is confused and anxious. My job is never ending and I often receive calls early in the morning and late at night. I am constantly worried about them but I do the best I can. I bought them Non Skid Shower Shoes a couple of months ago because I was worried about them falling in the bathroom and getting hurt. After all, the elderly are prone to falls and injuries. I take whatever precautions I can to protect them. Don’t you know I was so worried about them that I neglected to take care of myself. Ha ha, actually it is not funny at all. I was rushing like a maniac to get to their house for a 7 AM doctor’s appointment and I slipped in the shower and almost cracked my head open. My husband heard me scream and came rushing in to see what happened. Thank goodness I have a sense of humor. I burst into tears and hysterics simultaneously and realized I should have bought a pair of Non-Skid Water Walkers for myself and for my husband. I ordered two pairs for each of us from Rush Industries. We wear them at home and leave a pair in our lockers at the gym. So much for worrying about the elderly. A lesson for all: Take care of yourself first! Then worry about others…..

My Sexy Husband

Beauty and growth happened when I let go. I used to be a very critical person until… My criticism started infecting everything in my life including my relationship with my beloved husband. It seemed as if we fed off each other’s criticism and our relationship started to deteriorate. I have found that I am my own worst enemy and realized that if I didn’t stop criticizing myself, I would never stop criticizing my hubby. In the last couple of months I have been beating myself up for gaining a few pounds and I reverted back to old behaviors that used to haunt me every waking moment. The worst part is that I have been complaining to my husband which turns into him watching every little morsel of food I put in my mouth and saying something to me. In turn, I lash out at him and yesterday told him that he should stop watching me and start looking at his own fat around his midsection and do something about it… Like I said, it turned into a vicious cycle but my husband is super sensitive and withdrew into his cave. I tried to lure him out with an advertisement I found for Shape Wear For Men from Rush Industries thinking it would make him happy to find something that would solve his problem. Instead he withdrew even further and I decided I needed to walk away for a bit. I needed to take a time out and just sit and be still with myself and bring myself back to a sense of serenity. I realized I was trying to force my husband to respond to me in a way that he wasn’t capable of and my expectations were unreasonable. I stopped my negative self talk and started thinking beauty within and my anger turned to compassion towards myself and my husband. We hardly ever argue anymore and going back to that uncomfortable place was not fun. I gave myself another half hour to sit and think and it seemed as if my husband did the same because simultaneously we came looking for each other and fell into each other’s arms and… I’m not at liberty to share the rest…

PS I ordered some shape wear for myself and my husband loved it so much, he decided to order some for himself. He looks so sexy in his Men’s Thermal Sleeveless Shirt. Check back soon for the picture I took when he wasn’t looking. He looks better than the model in the picture! Seriously!!! He does!!!

The Solution To My Menopausal Muffin Top

MENOPAUSE!!! Ughhh…. I have to admit, I never experienced much in the way of symptoms. I am one of the few fortunates. Here I go dating myself again… Oh well… One of these days I will tell you exactly how old I am but until then I think I will keep you guessing… I know, you probably don’t really care Lol.

I hope the younger women read this because it can help prepare them for the future and not look at it in a negative way. I’ve heard so much negativity about menopause, night sweats, weight gain and on and on. There are definite pros and cons. Unfortunately, menopausal stomach weight gain is extremely common. As women age, they often find that weight gain becomes harder to avoid and their hips and waist will begin to expand. Menopausal stomach weight gain is quite upsetting for women who find themselves obsessing over their ‘muffin tops’ and I have to confess I am one of those who obsesses over that. I try so hard not to but it seems to be imbedded in my consciousness. That’s another topic for another day and one which will probably take years and years to unload…

News flash: There are actions we can take to combat our menopausal stomach weight gain.

Although there are some women who may look at their menopausal stomach weight gain and decide that it does not concern them. For women like myself who are of a healthy size, eat a balanced diet, and exercise regularly their menopausal stomach weight gain may be minimal and they should continue to live a healthy lifestyle. However for other women their menopausal stomach weight gain can be both upsetting because of their changing image and the health consequences of an excess of stomach fat. It is important to be motivated to combat the weight gain and try your best to gain a minimal amount. In addition to a regular exercise routine and healthy diet I have a little secret to share with you… I found Shapewear For Stomach at Rush Industries and I feel like a new person. The Powernet Control Panty not only holds in my abdomen, it holds my butt and thighs as well. The best part about it is that it doesn’t look like one of my grandmother’s underpinnings, it is quite sexy! In fact, when my husband walked in the other day, his eyes almost popped out of his head when he saw me standing there in just my bottoms… No need to say anything more…. Actually, let’s just say my husband is still smiling….

My Negative Body Image Journey…

I consider myself a maven on Shape Wear Reviews, in other words a connoisseur. I’m sure many of you are rolling your eyes already but hopefully you will continue reading so I can prove my case.

I have had body image issues since I am twelve thanks to Mommy Dearest. Oh by the way, besides my husband who never reads my blogs, neither does my mother so don’t fret over me calling her Mommy Dearest. I will save that topic for another blog so be sure to visit again…LOL

When I tell people about my body image issues they look at me as if I am crazy. I am pretty tall and have a slender appearance so most people don’t get it. Obviously when I look in the mirror I see things differently. Therefore, I am forever searching for the nicest, most comfortable, affordable and sexy shape wear on the market. Needless to say, I have spent an exorbitant amount of money and time on these products. After spending probably thousands of dollars on Spanx, Miraclesuit, Maidenform and many more brands, I discovered shape wear at Rush Industries. Hands down, it is the best shape wear on the market. Not only is it chic, stylish, sexy and inexpensive it is SO COMFORTABLE!!! Believe it or not, I do not even know I am wearing anything under my clothes…

With that being said, I wanted to get back to my body image issues…as I am well aware that is a topic of interest to many women. No thanks to Mommy Dearest, I am gradually overcoming that negative, self-loathing, I hate myself attitude… Believe it or not, I am learning to love myself. After all, I discovered, if I don’t love myself, then it is not possible for me to love anyone else. I do not want to turn into an old bitter miserable woman who emits negativity wherever she goes… I made a vow to let go of the past and write my future with a positive spin… I hope you will return to hear more about my journey… As I recover, I like to pay it forward… Until the next time…

The End Of Zoey’s Toxic Relationships…

My friend Zoey has been in and out of abusive and toxic relationships. She gave me permission to share this in hopes of helping others:

Zoey: “I was tired of drama and toxic relationships. I felt like a broken record and my friends didn’t want to hear from me anymore. I really needed to work on this and start taking care of myself or I would never healthy relationships in love or friendship. My last boyfriend broke my heart. He was mentally abusive and I was so low that I allowed it. I finally sought help and am working on myself day and night so that I do not repeat the same mistakes and pattern again.

I thought Alan was my sexual soul mate and felt an inexplicable pull towards him like a magnet. I fool heartedly thought I had never felt better understood by a partner; I thought no one else has succeeded in making my hyperactive libido feel, if not normal, then benignly quirky, even desirable. I soon realized that I had to dump him as a pre-emptive safety measure, not unlike shooting dynamite in a ravine to trigger a more manageable avalanche. I was definitely at my bottom and was ready to do the work. My friend Emily referred me to a wonderful therapist.

Working with my therapist I have finally opened my heart and instead of insisting I am damage-proof, I listen to the hurt I am experiencing. I have stopped trying to distract myself and instead, I treat the pain as a message whose meaning it is my job to decipher. As I decipher the messages, I have begun to heal.

Here’s an added bonus: I have always struggled with my weight as well and believe it or not, without even dieting or thinking about it the pounds have started melting away. I am now working on my outside as well and recently started an exercise program. I bought a High Waist Shaper from Rush Industries that compresses me in just the right places. The best thing is that it doesn’t look like one of those unsightly girdles our grandmothers used to wear. It is seamless, stylish, sexy and comfortable to wear all day.

The work continues: I am a complex being, with a mix of good and bad traits and I am confident that as long as I listen to my inner voice (and my therapist), my life will continue to progress just the way it ought to. I’m finally moving from a self loathing person to a self loving, beautiful woman making healthy choices in my life. I will NEVER again subject myself to an abusive relationship. I now share my story in hopes of carrying my message to help others in similar situations.”

Thank your courage and for sharing your story Zoey. I am sure you have already helped many and will continue to do so. Looking forward to the next chapter…