Jack’s complaints are justified. The hot dog wasn’t hot enough and the beer was warm. What all the Complaining Jacks and Criticial Craigs don’t realize is that negativity exacts a price that no healthy person can afford to pay. We tend to think of negativity as the tendency to criticize, blame, hate, fear, or be depressed as a psychological disposition… Here’s a thought, what if you viewed negativity as a spiritual disease? The understanding of what negativity really is and how it operates is crucial to dealing with this plague. While one is engaged in the act of criticizing he or she is confined to a World of Estrangement, like a prisoner in a cell. Negativity creates a world of estrangement and there is no love or joy in that world. Fault-finding, blame, resentment, hostility and anger are the plane tickets that land us in the World of Estrangement. Some of us have taken up permanent residence there and those that have are destined to suffer from poor health both physically and mentally. Living in the World of Estrangement, the State of Negativity, is equivalent to living atop a nuclear-waste disposal site. Why would any intelligent person stay there? Why wouldn’t they just move out? After all, the World of Estrangement charges its inhabitants an exorbitantly high rent.
It seems as if people just get stuck and can’t seem to get themselves out once they are dug in so deeply. My friend Jacqueline was one of those Complaining Jacks until recently. She told me she got sick and tired of being sick and tired and decided she needed to make a change before she wound up either in a psychiatric ward or the cardiac unit.
Jacqueline told me she had to let go of her long-held resentments, her cherished grudges, her precious claim to be the innocent victim of someone else’s wrongdoing. She proclaimed that she was the rightful owner of those legitimate gripes but soon learned that the gripes owned her and were literally destroying her. The key to her success she told me was her Serenity Necklace. I found it hard to believe that something materialistic had the power to change her so drastically. She told me it wasn’t actually the necklace which she bought from Rush Industries but it was prayer that is etched on the Serenity Prayer Cross Pendant. “God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change…Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference…”
I am so happy Jacqueline found her serenity. She is a different person and I am so happy to spend time with her now. I now call her Joyous Jackie!!!